‘She was no mother to me’: The estranged daughter of a ‘Real Housewives’ star tells her side of the story

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The INSIDER Summary:

  • “Real Housewives of Orange County” star Tamra Judge has been very open about her estranged relationship with her daughter, Sidney.
  • Tamra claims her daughter chose her father’s side in Tamra’s 2012 divorce from Sidney’s father, Simon Barney.
  • Sidney refutes Tamra’s version of events and says she left because Tamra was “neglectful,” self-obsessed, and places the reality show above her daughter.
  • Read Sidney’s full statement below. A representative for Tamra declined to comment.

Sidney Barney, the estranged daughter of “Real Housewives of Orange County” star Tamra Barney, is refuting many of the statements her mother has made on recent episodes of the Bravo show.

“I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publicly as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show,” Sidney wrote in a lengthy post on Facebook Monday.

Her strained relationship with her mother has been an ongoing storyline on the reality show. But it has been featured largely on the latest episodes in which Tamra appears in a documentary called “Erasing Family.” She tearfully claimed that Sidney chose her father’s side when she started her divorce proceedings against Simon Barney in 2010.

But Sidney says her problems with her mother weren’t related to the divorce and that she moved out of Tamra’s home in 2013, a year after the bitter divorce was finalized.

“Me leaving has nothing to do with the divorce,” Sidney wrote. “It has to do with the living conditions at my mother’s house and the way she treated me and still treats me today.”

Sidney claims that Tamra was “neglectful,” would leave the children at home without food, ignore them, that she was emotionally abusive, self-obsessed, and places her reality stardom above their relationship.

“She was no mother to me,” she said. “This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment. I have explained this to her numerous times in court, in therapy, and when we would meet up that the ONLY reason I am not living with her is because she continues to do the things that pushed me out of her house, like talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few.”

On a recent episode, Tamra said that she unexpectedly ran in to Sidney while she was visiting with her older brother and they spent time in the same room. Tamra felt it was a sign that their relationship is on the mend.

But Sidney’s Facebook post pretty clearly states otherwise:

“My mom has been portraying the innocent erased mother whose daughter was estranged from her due to divorce and an evil ex husband when in actuality she is the sole reason why I do not want her in my life and will not have a relationship with her.”

INSIDER reached out to Tamra’s representative, who informed us that she would not be commenting publicly on Sidney’s accusations.

You can see Sidney’s Facebook post below:

 

And here’s the full transcription:

“I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publicly as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show. For starters, I did not move out when my parents got a divorce nor did I chose my fathers side in the divorce. My parents separated in 2010, I moved out of my mother’s house in 2013. Me leaving has nothing to do with the divorce, it has to do with the living conditions at my mothers house and the way she treated me and still treats me today. In regards to choosing sides, I actually chose my mothers side when my parents separated. This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parents arguments. She even called us Simon or “mini Simon” when we did something bad or told us that we were “acting like your father.” This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic.

The reasons I left my mothers house are that she was neglectful (leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely), she constantly put herself first and the biggest reason was that she was mentally and emotionally abusive. She was no mother to me. This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment. I have explained this to her numerous times in court, in therapy, and when we would meet up that the ONLY reason I am not living with her is because she continues to do the things that pushed me out of her house, like talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few.

I went to therapy with my mother for 3 years. I was forced by the courts and my father to try to mend the relationship with my mother. Unfortunately my mother is unable to recognize that she is in the wrong and continues to put blame on everything else. If she would have put the effort into actually working on our relationship, instead of talking and crying about how much she “misses me” on the show and wishes things were different she wouldn’t have missed my entire high school career.

My father has pushed me to have a relationship with my mother forcing me to go meet her in and out of therapy. He even forced me to let her come to my graduation because it was a milestone. When I told my mother that she could come I gave her a few conditions. All I asked was that she remains cordial with my father and my stepmom and to not post anything about my graduation, anywhere. Not even two weeks after I graduated she posted a photo of me and shared it with her one million followers knowing that it would get picked up by the press. The one thing I asked and have been asking for 4 years now has been to not talk about me because I don’t want to be in the spotlight. But Again breaking her promises as per usual, she puts herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me. If she really wanted a relationship she would keep her promises and recognize that it is no one else’s fault but hers that I do not want her in my life.

Although I do not want to be in the public eye, I felt the need to clear these lies up and set the record straight in hopes that it will straighten my mom out so that she is held accountable and is forced to do the right thing. My mom has been portraying the innocent erased mother whose daughter was estranged from her due to divorce and an evil ex husband when in actuality she is the sole reason why I do not want her in my life and will not have a relationship with her. Instead of playing the innocent erased mother character, she could’ve been trying to actually fix our relationship and change her ways. However the character keeps her relevant, and is her only storyline. Why would she actually try to get me back? Without the estrangements she is no longer pitied and talked about and her fame and fortune go down the tubes.”

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